We’ve all faced making a tough decision at some time in our lives. And just at the point of making a decision, we can become indecisive.
It’s easy to build up a logical list of all the ‘pros’ towards one course of action, and it is equally easy to compile all the ‘cons’ too. We very cleverly build up equal weight on both sides to prevent ourselves seeing a clear winner. Net result, stuck – no decision made, no further action taken, indecision rules.
Why is it apparently so difficult to make a decision?
The whole decision making process is developed from your ego. As your egos job is to protect you by increasing stability, predictability and removing the unknown, it has cleverly developed a decision making system which is flawed from the start. It is a process designed to not come up with a clear winner, because declaring a winner and taking actions commensurate with that decision would expose you to risk – you could be held responsible (it’s your fault) if you ‘get it wrong’.
So if you find yourself stuck being indecisive at some point, what is an alternative?
Make a choice instead. You do not make choices for a reason (logic) after tabulating a list of pro’s and con’s. You make them based on your gut instinct and intuition.
Trust that you will be capable of dealing with the consequences, and very effectively too, because the world supports people who are rolling on, as well as those who are stuck. You have lived to whatever age you are now and have survived, so trust that you will at least do the same when you make a choice.
Your intuitive choice is not based on logic, so you make a choice for no reason, other than it ‘feels’ the right one at the time. And if it doesn’t work out to your satisfaction, make another choice, and another, and another. Being able to, and actually making choices is one definition of freedom.
Next time you are faced with a difficult decision, don’t make it. Make a choice instead.