Moving from Black and White to Colour

Words reduce reality to something the human mind can grasp, but cannot describe things in their depth.

At best they describe mental concepts. If I say ‘tree’, you have a concept of what I mean, but don’t know exactly what I mean. If I say ‘plumber’, you have a set of thoughts, judgments and concepts of what I am talking about, but you don’t know what that plumber does or what is individual about their style. You work with the projection you have created rather than the person. If I say sitting on beach at sunset is ‘great’, you will have your own vision of this, but it will not be the same as mine, or another person’s.

Words can deliver concepts but cannot describe experiences. Experiencing something is far greater than understanding it conceptually, as a series of thoughts in your head. Being with something, free of your preconditioned concepts, thoughts and judgments delivers depth and comprehension at a far greater level.

When you look at a situation you may be experiencing some difficulty with, and suspend all thoughts, judgements, beliefs, mental images and concepts about it, you have the opportunity to see it differently. The effect of this is like seeing a television  picture in black and white, then in colour – the difference is profound. You had become used to black and white, and it was as good as you thought it could get. But when exposed to a colour television for the first time, there is a new vibrancy and freshness, and you notice all sorts of new things in the picture.

I have had numerous conversations with clients over the years, picking their brains and trying to get from them how they would describe what I do. It has been something none of us have been able to do in away such that every person will instantly receive the same message. They can describe their experience, or what they have got out of working with me, but we have come to the conclusion that trying to describe what I do in a way that captures everyone’s attention is impossible, and a waste of time and energy to try and formulate.

However, having a conversation with me for half an hour conveys to them what it could mean to them in a way which I could not by bombarding them with ‘power phrases’ or ‘amazing concepts’. Experiencing working together for even only a short time takes them beyond thoughts, concepts and judgements, and provides the space to look at things almost with a new pair of eyes. That is why I don’t start working with a client until we have had an introductory 30 minute conversation, so that they are clear what they are taking on, and get their own flavour of what that could be like for themselves.

If you want to experience this transition from black and white to colour (and I understand that all you have to work on here is my description and your thoughts about what I am saying!) when applied to any area of your life, be it work, relationships, direction, money, health or anything else you may be looking for a breakthrough in, please come and join the Direction Seminar starting April 17th in Hamble, Southampton. Details are available at

I cannot describe to you what you will experience – only you will know what that is once you experience it. But I invite you to get in touch with me and have a conversation about what could be possible for you from being in the seminar, and help you choose whether it is for you or not. It may help you go from black and white to colour, and that is worth having in just about anybody’s world.

About theclaritycoach

Paul Stonehouse is an experienced coach, educator and speaker, and is completely committed to helping people perform at their best. His particular passion is helping people move forward when they are stuck, enabling them to live and work a in a way which is a confident expression of their true selves.
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