The autumn months are a period of change and feeling unsettled for many of us. The summer has nearly finished; the weather changes and the evenings are darker. For some, there is a feeling of resistance to engaging in life as it is right now. We wish it was still summer. It’s a bit like wanting back the party that you are suffering with the hangover from now…
Talking to clients about this recently, I am amazed at how many of us have this inbuilt resistance to the autumn, because we have a feeling of loss of freedom, a memory similar to going back to school in childhood after the long summer holidays.
The cause of all stress is living in the past (in this case summer, or a romantic picture of how the summer ‘should’ be), or in the future, neither of which we have control over.
Feelings of regret about the past, or fear and uncertainty about the future will shape your experience in the present moment. If you reinforce and pay attention to thoughts and feelings of being a bit flat, depressed, or ‘hung over’ from holiday, recognise that these are just thoughts and feelings, and they are shaping your current experience.
If you are feeling like this, it is a great time to have a thorough mental, physical and emotional clearout. Clearing has the double benefit of getting rid of no-longer useful ‘stuff’ (things that may have served you in the past but do not do so any more), and at the same time creating space for new thoughts, feelings and material things to come into your life. You get completion and creation at the same time.
I have focussed much of the last two months on progressing our new house into a state that is a pleasure to live in. This has involved some building work, heavy gardening, throwing out or passing on things that we brought with us from the old place but no longer need, and getting used to the space in which we live. It has been great, and I am writing this article from my new office – now a great place to work from, formerly a dated and leaking ensuite bathroom.
And now, although not altogether relishing the shorter days and longer nights up to Christmas, I am feeling ready to re-engage and shift my focus back onto helping people be at their best. I am also looking forward to experiencing what it’s like living in the new house through the autumn and winter.
Bring it on!