Adjusting what you already have may give you fully what you want

If you’ve been struggling to create a clear picture of ‘what’ you want to change in your life, you may get the results you want by a different method – by putting your attention to changing ‘how’ you do what you already do.

Although it may not appear to be as creative and exciting as taking on a completely new direction, you may gain satisfaction with the end result, particularly if your current situation is close to what you feel is right for you anyway. Sufficient modification may be possible within your current circumstances to satisfy your need for growth or change.

So, for example, if you are getting fed up with your current job role, pay some attention to how you are executing it, rather than looking over the horizon at getting a new job. It can be more effective to look at the bits of your current work that you enjoy and are good at, and see how you could get even better at performing them, while altering the bits that leave you feeling drained, bored or fed up.

This change in perception of your current circumstances could provide the growth, stimulation and focus you would anticipate in a new job or career, without throwing the baby out with the bathwater, and letting go of the bits of your current job/ way of life that work for you.

It may also provide a future that is more tangible and attractive, at least in the short to medium term, and that doesn’t feel such an enormous leap into the unknown. You don’t necessarily have to uproot your whole life to get what you want.

As an example of this, I know that I love training people, particularly in coaching skills. But I sometimes find that after I have run a two day course, although fully alert, alive and enjoying it during the sessions, after the course I can feel utterly drained, and can take a day to recover. For a number of years I accepted that this was just what happened after running a training course, as many of the trainers I talked to shared a similar experience. More recently, I have been looking at why I feel drained, and through one of my coaches, have come to the conclusion that ‘what’ I am doing (training people) is fine for me, and a good match with what I love doing and how I love working. However, working on ’how’ I deliver the training may change the exhausted feeling afterwards. This was a blind spot for me, but having revealed it, I have a new way of approaching my situation, and an exciting possible future, where I train and come away feeling energized the next day.

Have a look at your own life. What price are you paying to do something you like? Is it all wonderful, or are there some areas you are accepting cost you a lot?

Do get in touch if you would like some help in uncovering your blind spots and being at your best.

About theclaritycoach

Paul Stonehouse is an experienced coach, educator and speaker, and is completely committed to helping people perform at their best. His particular passion is helping people move forward when they are stuck, enabling them to live and work a in a way which is a confident expression of their true selves.
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