If you are a mere human (rather than Superman), ‘stuff’ can appear in your life which doesn’t seem to have anything to do with where you are trying to get to. Sometimes, it feels like it has been sent to deliberately derail your best efforts.
As a result, you can become disillusioned. What has the car not starting when you are already late for an appointment got to do with you being at your best? Or when you wake up one morning stuffed full of cold and feeling lousy when you want your energy to be at its highest, so you can get on with your plans?
Part of being at your best is recognising that you do not make it all happen by yourself, or in a day. When you have finally got clear about what you want, there is a tendency to become very blinkered in the processing of the world around you. You start looking out for signs that you believe show you are going in the right direction. When you don’t see the signs you expect, you think your journey is not on track, and start becoming attached to searching even harder for what you are expecting to see, rather than seeing what is actually happening around you. Then it looks like ‘it’s not working’ and you give up.
What can work in this situation is practicing acceptance. Accepting that where you are is where you are. And that’s it, nothing more, nothing less.
This is not a state of resignation, when it feels like you have one arm twisted up behind your back and have to submit. This is a state of just stopping and getting present to what is actually happening right here and now. Just because you wake up feeling lousy, does not mean that your project is never going to work. Just because you are late for an important meeting because the car did not start does not mean that you won’t be able to be, do or have what you want.
The beauty of acceptance is that when you embrace (rather than fight) an apparent problem, and recommit to what you want, very often things start happening as if by miracle which are in line with your desired outcome. In the process of accepting that where you are is just where you are and that there is nothing wrong with it, you open yourself up to others helping you achieve what you want, and let go of thinking you are the only person who can ‘make it happen’.
Next time you receive an apparent ‘body blow’ which seems to stop you dead in your tracks, practice acceptance. It will save you a lot of energy.
Do let me know what results you get and how your plans progress in unexpected ways.