Keeping your energy flowing

Do you ever find times when you seem to be bogged down with events and circumstances, and despite having a clear idea of what you want to move ahead with, you don’t seem to be able to make progress and feel like you’re running through treacle?

Energy increases when things are whole and complete. Something is incomplete when you can look at it and say ‘this is draining me in some way’. Examples of this might be an untidy office, unpaid bills, phone calls to return that are now overdue, or upsets in relationships that you are still smarting over.

Completion is about ending, declaring finished, removing clutter from life, and declaring obsolete. In addition, it is about choosing what you do want in life, and putting your energy towards that.

I believe it was the Buddha who said ‘the only way to have inner peace is by finishing everything you have ever started’. Whereas this is probably impossible, before moving ahead in progressing a plan or new commitment, it is important to tidy up and complete the past. A farmer would not plant seeds without clearing old vegetation and preparing the ground to provide conditions for the best crop growth.

Completion can be applied in all areas of life – money, career, health, personal growth, your physical environment, relationships and fun and recreation.  The impact of leaving areas incomplete is to take energy rather than give it, and this leaves you feeling drained and struggling as you work harder to ‘make it happen’. It’s like trying to take a bath without the plug in – while you are putting water (energy) in at the top, it’s draining out just as fast through the plug hole. Start plugging the hole (by completing all the things that are draining your energy) and it will be able to hold water (energy).

So ask yourself ‘what is incomplete in my life at the moment?’ or ‘what is the biggest energy drain I am experiencing currently’. One area that that comes up for me periodically is clutter in the house.

The house is not always as tidy and peaceful as we would like it. We are not trying for ‘the show-home perfectionism’ look, but we do notice when the general level of untidiness starts becoming a drain in energy, and it ceases to be a great place to relax and recuperate. Tidying the children’s toys from under the settee, removing accumulated ‘stuff’ from the kitchen that has nothing to do with cooking, and repairing and re-hanging a favourite mirror have all ‘plugged’ some of the energy drains and restored a level of harmony and tranquillity around the house. There is more to do, as new things come into the house, but we no longer have to manage those particular energy drains, and there is a feeling of peacefulness that was not there before.

What happens when you cannot deal with a ‘drain’ in one simple and quick action? An example of this might be a change a career. If you don’t yet have the job you want, you could say that an incompletion exists, so the drain will continue until you do. Well, yes and no! If you break the search for new work down into steps, when you climb each one, you can be complete with it. Completing smaller goals within the big goal will reduce the size of the drain.

So how do you know when something is complete or incomplete? It’s because you say it is.  A good indicator of whether you are complete with something comes when you ask yourself ‘is this still draining me, and is there anything else I need to do right now?’ If there is, choose whether you want to do anything about it and take the necessary actions. If not, declare it complete and move on.

Like all the best things in life, completion is an ongoing event. What gives you energy today may provide a drain tomorrow. A regular clean out and declutter is a great way of maintaining your energy flow.

About theclaritycoach

Paul Stonehouse is an experienced coach, educator and speaker, and is completely committed to helping people perform at their best. His particular passion is helping people move forward when they are stuck, enabling them to live and work a in a way which is a confident expression of their true selves.
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