Living with the Void

The void is a state of consciousness that you can go into as you expand beyond your current limits and move into your next level of growth. During this time, you leave behind familiar structures, old habits, thoughts and behaviours and go deep within yourself to develop new ones which better match who you are becoming. It is often a time of life shifting insights, yet for most of us, it occurs as a turbulent experience.

This is because as you leave one familiar path, life becomes uncertain as you let go of aspects of your personality (ego) that no longer fit. It is not a comfortable place for your ego, as your ego is designed to keep you feeling safe and secure, which it cannot do as it does not see where you are going.

People experience the void in different ways. If you are normally sociable, you might want to be alone, and not want to be involved with other people. You may feel empty and uncertain about where your life is going, and go through periods of wanting lots of sleep. You may feel almost obsessively over-energised at times, or unusually low in energy. Many people report feelings of confusion and feel dithery and indecisive about subjects they have previously dealt with quickly. You may feel more emotional than usual, or feel nothing at all. There may be periods of great clarity when insights and ideas pour through you.

Some people report feeling that things are falling apart or things you took for granted aren’t working as they used to do.

The void teaches you about your attachments – it is a time for examining your judgements, relationships, feelings, attitudes and values, replacing those which no longer serve you with ones that do.

Being in the void is a time of not knowing, as only when you stop knowing things in your normal way, and experience not knowing that you can connect with new knowledge. Not knowing is a state of being rather than doing, and of stillness and silence.

The void is a time to let go of preconceived ideas and explore your expanded range of horizons. It will take ‘not knowing’ to be able to accomplish this. Take time to fantasize and daydream, think about how things in the future could be different. Don’t worry if you are not clear how the future will materialise, or if no direction has yet revealed itself. Love and accept your current circumstances, as the more you do this, the more quickly your new vision will become clear and you will grow towards it.

There comes a turning point in the void. At some point, you sense a new determination, a new strength and make decisions that will lead you in a new direction – a shift takes place when you know that you are now ready to start creating what you want. Find yourself some ‘still’ time, and listen to your inner voice or intuition, and take actions in line with what it says, even though the whole picture may not yet be clear.

And finally, don’t worry about being in a void – it will pass. Although not welcomed by most people because of the feeling of uncertainty, is a very important time in your personal growth. Learn to live with uncertainty, and you will accelerate your growth, becoming the best you can be and creating a new and higher future, possibly greater than you can currently imagine.

About theclaritycoach

Paul Stonehouse is an experienced coach, educator and speaker, and is completely committed to helping people perform at their best. His particular passion is helping people move forward when they are stuck, enabling them to live and work a in a way which is a confident expression of their true selves.
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1 Response to Living with the Void

  1. Phil Carter says:

    Don’t I know that feeling at the moment! After leaving my job last Tuesday it has been a roller-coaster ride! One day feeling really depressed, the next feeling really energised, to the point of not being able to sleep because there are too many thoughts and ideas coursing through my brain! Great post Paul!

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