Look local – what you want is probably there already

I have learned that when I am struggling for answers, often they are already on my doorstep.

My experience has been that when I am looking for something, I tend to start looking outside my known circle of contacts and familiar environment.  I suppose this is because I have a thought that what I want isn’t here now, so it must be out there in the big wide world. So I tend to go on a quest, seeking what I want far and wide, way beyond my usual circle of contacts and local environment. And what I want often still doesn’t show up, or if it does, it is at a high cost in terms of traveling time.

Yet when I start looking closer to home, the things I want are usually already there – I just haven’t seen them, or have not noticed them, because I don’t expect them to be so close to home.

To give you a couple of examples of this, a few years ago, I wanted to buy a Citroen 2CV, one of those old fashioned, iconic French cars that were built from the mid 1940’s to the early 1980’s, before emission regulations and safety concerns dictated car design. I searched all over the internet, found lots advertised in Wales, Cornwall and the North of England, but very few within 50 miles of where I live, near Southampton. Then, deciding to look local, I noticed one tucked away at the back of a driveway in my village, and to cut a long story short, the owner was looking to sell it and had not got round to advertising it. It became mine.

Secondly, I often want wood of one sort or another and an abundance of it seems to find its way into my life, and without lots of effort. In the past I have wanted railway sleepers for making raised vegetable beds – they were ‘rescued’ over the course of two years from the nearby beaches; firewood comes from neighbours felling unwanted trees; and quality woods for making things have come from a retiring boat builder.

I am sure this is more than coincidence, and further more believe that this applies to other areas of life too.  The important thing seems to be knowing what you are looking for, then putting it to the back of your mind – don’t get hung up in a big quest where you create the expectation of it coming from far away. Keep focusing on what you want to appear, and it will probably turn up locally.

Try this out – assume that if you want something and you are not getting it, the solution will probably lie with people you already know, or who are not physically far from you. The trick seems to be in altering your expectations from ‘because this is new it has to be difficult’ to ‘it’s close to home – I just can’t see it yet’. Start looking at your contacts with the conviction that they have something to tell you or give to you that you may not have expected from them before, and ask for their help.

Have some fun with it, and do let me know your results.


About theclaritycoach

Paul Stonehouse is an experienced coach, educator and speaker, and is completely committed to helping people perform at their best. His particular passion is helping people move forward when they are stuck, enabling them to live and work a in a way which is a confident expression of their true selves.
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